We all want love. Lots of it. The more the better.
Throughout recorded history, men of all ages have asked the same
question: “How can I get women to love me?”
Whether you are single or married, old or young, desiring a relationship
or already in one, the techniques in this book can help you become
more lovable, and attract love ¬– or more love –
into your life.
You may be single and looking for that right woman. You may be
looking for just a fling, or a lot of fun (or trouble). You may
be married, or in a long-term relationship, longing to light that
old spark back up again. You may be sexually monogamous with one
partner, or polyamorous with many lovers. You may be gay or straight
or bi or tri. But regardless of our circumstances, we all want
more love in our lives.
And, we deserve more love in our lives – or we can deserve
it – if we simply work on ourselves and make ourselves more
loveable, more attractive to the love that is already out there.
Women are actually looking for you right now. What you want wants
you. But something stands in the way between you and the love
Do you know what is standing in your way?
What is in the way is a part of you. That’s the bad news.
The good news is: there’s something you – and only
you – can do about it.
This book contains more than one hundred suggestions that you
can work with to change the parts of you that aren’t attractive
to women. But nothing will change for you unless you implement
at least some of the suggestions. If you keep doing what you are
doing, you will keep getting the results you are getting, and
you will keep living the life you are living. The techniques in
this book were developed and refined over lifetimes of invention
and experimentation by many sophisticated and wise men, through
a difficult path of trial, error, improvement and results. They
are guaranteed to work – if you do.
So don’t just sit there – DO SOMETHING! Read each
chapter, then implement at least one of the suggestions. Read
more. Then implement one more shift. Continue growing. When we
stop growing, we die to the infinite possibilities within us.
When we grow as men, we open a doorway to the love we want. Like
floodwaters, it will come rushing in.
Each of us knows at least one man who gets plenty of love. He
attracts great women who love him. He never lacks a date or a
good relationship. His life seems overflowing and abundant with
love, regardless of looks, resources, or charm. I am one of those
guys. I am average-looking, and middle-aged. I am 53, have a slight
paunch around the middle, and carry about 20 pounds more than
I need. Yet women fall in love with me easily.
Is there some special quality that only a few of us are gifted
with at birth? Or are there secret things that a man can do to
attract and sustain love from women? I have discovered dozens
of things that you can do to attract more love (and more women)
into your life. These actions also do something else – they
help sustain a good relationship once you’ve got one. If
you take this advice and do some of these things, you will become
one of those “lucky” men that women love. When you
get to that point, share the wealth. When those other guys ask
you, “What’s your secret?” send them a copy
of this free version of my e-book (you have my permission), or
send them to my website to buy the full version.
Here is a list of 15 Techniques for Getting Women to Love You:
1. Know Thyself
2. Have Some Body
3. Be Mysterious
4. Integrity Rules
5. Speak Truth
6. Take Care of Yourself
7. Get Over Yourself
8. Love Women
10. Please Her
11. Enjoy Her
12. Show Up
13. Then What?
14. End Cleanly
15. Keep Beginning Forever
you implement these techniques into your life, you will be transformed
into the kind of man that women love. Some of these shifts take
a lot of internal work, such as changing some of your old habits
and beliefs. Some of them are as easy as adopting a different
point of view. The last chapter, Resources for Change, provides
a list of referrals and suggestions for deeper work if you are
serious about making big changes in your life and in yourself.
free version of my book contains the first four techniques, plus
the last chapter, Resources for Change. You can order the full
version, which contains 15 chapters, on my website, www.everydayawakening.com.
me know of your successes, your struggles, thoughts, suggestions
and additions. I welcome your questions and comments. Write to
me at email@example.com.
to begin? Let’s go exploring.
Technique #1: Know Thyself
Women love men who know themselves. Women are attracted to men
who are solid and confident, and clear and settled about their
lives, their desires, and their work. You can fake confidence
for awhile, but fakes are discovered (and dumped) quickly. You
have to do the inner work that grows the younger, adolescent part
of you into a man of integrity. This has to do with emotional
maturity, not physical age. “Real men” attract women
like crazy. This is not exclusive to male models with six-pack
abs (although that kind of solidity doesn’t hurt). It means
any man who knows himself well and stands solid in himself. "Know
Thyself" was the advice carved into the Oracle of Delphi
temple dedicated to the sun god Apollo in ancient Greece, when
Socrates and Plato were founding modern philosophical inquiry.
“Know Thyself” was good advice then, and it remains
good advice today.
There are a hundred ways to accomplish this goal, and they all
require time and effort dedicated to inner work. Here are a few
1. Read almost any book in the self-help or psychology section
of a bookstore. There are excellent books on men’s psychology,
improving relationships, and inner development. Don’t just
read them – do the exercises. Recommendations: The Power
of Now, Iron John, Fire in the Belly, Conversations with God,
The Way of the Superior Man, and Mars and Venus on a Date.
2. Join a 12-step program if you have any addictions that are
getting in the way. We’re almost all addicted to something.
We try to fill that hole inside of us with some “filler”
or stimulant. For some men it is the obvious vices: alcohol, cocaine,
cigarettes, or sugar-and-fat-laced foods. For others it is a compulsion
to have sex (beyond a healthy sex life), or to watch TV for hours
at a time. For others it is work itself which has become the addiction.
If you’re working more than ten hours a day consistently,
you’re probably a workaholic. The twelve steps are a growth
and healing technology we can all use.
3. Get into regular therapy and stick with it, even if you don’t
feel like you need it. There are as many kinds of therapy as there
are therapists. Interview at least ten before you decide whom
to work with, then commit yourself to at least a year’s
worth of inner exploration.
4. Take a workshop on self-development from an organization such
as Landmark Education (The Forum), Star’s Edge (The Avatar
Course), or others.
5. Find a reputable masseuse or body worker who does deep tissue
body work, such as Rolfing or Hellerwork. Deep tissue work releases
energy and past traumas, and it changes how you stand (physically
and emotionally) in the world. Your stature, how you hold yourself
and how you move, is a woman attractor.
6. Go see a psychic, shaman, or healer to heal deep wounds from
the past. Yes, it’s weird, but it can work, and women will
love the fact that you’re open minded enough to explore
these buried aspects of yourself.
7. Study the history of philosophy, psychology, religion, mythology,
or civilizations. The more you know about your past, and the past
of your culture, the more prepared you are for creating a good
future for yourself, and her. If you can talk about ideas instead
of just football and work, you’ll attract a whole other
(higher) class of women.
8. Learn to meditate. Then do it – at least once a day,
and twice if possible. Finding your “center” is the
single best way to be more at peace and ease with yourself, and
with her, and with your co-workers. There are dozens of different
types of meditation. Try them all until you find one that works
for you. I recommend learning the techniques of Vipassana (Mindfulness),
Transcendental Meditation, or Zen, but you can also just sit quietly
without distractions for twenty minutes.
9. Go to yoga class – regularly. Try different types of
yoga and different teachers until you find one you like. Stretching
your body will give both your body and your mind more flexibility
and ease of flow. Every yoga school has beginner’s classes.
They don’t laugh when you’re clumsy, and they are
filled with lovely, lithe women. Women outnumber men in yoga classes
five- or ten-to-one, so get thee to a yoga class, especially if
you’re single. As you age, you need yoga more and more to
stay flexible and fit.
10. Take workshops dedicated to men’s development, such
as The Sword & Scepter, The ManKind Project’s New Warrior
Training Adventure, or Sterling Institute’s Men’s
Weekend. There are dozens of others listed on www.MenStuff.org.
11. Join a men’s group. There are men’s groups in
every state that you can join, or you can start your own. Check
out The National Men’s Resource Center (www.menstuff.org)
for a listing of Men’s Councils, or MenWeb (www.menweb.com),
The Men’s Center (www.themenscenter.com), or Nation of Men
(www.nom.org). When you are working on yourself and the difficult
stuff in your life in the presence of other men, it is impossible
to feel alone. A Men’s Group shows you that it is possible
to grow and change, gives you structure for doing so, and provides
models of excellence to learn from.
12. Take dance lessons. Learn to move with grace. Try partner
dancing such as Salsa or Tango, even if (especially if) you think
of yourself as someone who “can’t dance.” Also
try self-expressive dance classes such as Gabrielle Roth’s
5 Rhythms Training (www.ravenrecording.com). A man who dances
and moves well attracts women’s attention, because so many
men can’t even find their hips. It will also affect how
you walk, talk, and work. Men who can dance well are women magnets.
13. Create art. Get out some art supplies and put some paint or
crayon on paper. Make something out of clay. Play a musical instrument.
Start expressing the non-verbal parts of yourself. Take a few
classes at your local college. (Life drawing classes usually feature
live nudes, which always inspires creative expression.) Drawing
gets you out of your head, quiets the mind, and brings you into
the present moment. It’s a great antidote to thinking. Read
“Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain” and do the
14. Engage in interesting conversations with interesting people.
Take the most interesting person you know out to lunch and ask
a lot of questions. Be interested, rather than interesting. It
will give you something to think and talk about that is outside
your current reality. Do this with a different person each week.
Engage in conversations with elders, and with people completely
unlike you. Each time you gain a new perspective you get a new
lease on life. Stretch your mind in new directions.
15. Explore your spirituality. Religion gives many people everything
they need spiritually. Most people, however, have rejected their
original church’s doctrine somewhere along the way. There
are many good ways to get back in touch with the Divine, God,
Spirit, Higher Self, or whatever you prefer to call the Big It.
Your spiritual nature is as important to work on as your physical,
emotional, and intellectual nature. You can find a path that is
personally fulfilling to you. Explore books, classes, trainings,
workshops, and spiritual teachers.
When you realize that your task in life is to “Know Thyself,”
the study of almost anything can lead you to greater self-knowledge.
There are thousands of resources available to us – more
than at any time throughout history. The way to become more interesting
to women is to be…. interesting! And the way to be interesting
is to be interested. The more different things you are interested
in and study, the more depth you have. Women love depth. They
want to bathe in it. They want to revel in it.
In almost every one of these areas of exploration, women outnumber
men. In self-development workshops and spiritual gatherings, women
outnumber men. Those of us who engage in these activities are
surrounded by women. And we love it. We can’t understand
why men aren’t flocking to these activities. If you are
one man in a room-full of women, you’ll be noticed, and
desired, and wanted. It’s that simple.
And as you get to Know Thyself, remember also to Love Thyself.
If you don’t love you, how do you expect anyone else to
#2: Have Some Body
Women love men who are comfortable in their bodies. Most men live
a short distance away from their bodies, and inhabit only two
small regions: their head and their genitals. This disturbs women
who live in and through their bodies. Women can sense instantly
whether you are “in” or “out” of your
body, and how comfortable you are inside your skin. Men who are
in touch with their body’s feelings and sensations are more
sensitive to women’s feelings, so they make better lovers.
Women know this.
What can you do to get into your body? Exercise is one route,
but it is possible to use exercise to harden your shell, rather
than get in touch with what you are actually feeling. Gyms are
filled with hard body types who radiate the message “I’m
hard – and insensitive!” Exercise is great for you,
and is essential to your health, but strength and aerobic exercise
should be mixed with yoga or dance – the two best practices
for learning to inhabit your body. Check into yoga classes and
dance classes in your city. Get over your embarrassment. They
are always filled with women who are exploring their bodies and
their sensuality, and expressing their beauty. You will get attention
from dancers looking for a partner, and “yoginis”
looking for a yogi to practice with.
If lovemaking is a dance, how many steps do you know? Many men
have a repertoire of only a few steps: The “I’ll take
what I want” tango. The “I got mine” waltz.
The “This is the way I like it” two-step. There are
hundreds of other forms of lovemaking, and they can all be learned.
Bodies are fascinating, and they are worthy of careful study.
Here is one piece of advice that you can use your entire life
to get women to love you more: Slow Down! W a a a a y D o w n.
Women open to sexuality and make love at a much slower speed than
men. They rarely catch up if you’re jetting ahead. Slow
down your lovemaking fervor. You’ll have more time to explore,
have fun, and receive more pleasure. And, you’ll get much
more love from your woman. This is especially true before sex.
“Foreplay” is not a technique that you use in order
to get laid. [Here’s a joke that’s old but unfortunately
true: Q: Why do so many women fake orgasms? A: Because so many
men fake foreplay!]
The sexual act should be a slow, languorous walk from sensual
touching and kissing to the curtain call of orgasm. If it feels
like a snail’s pace to you, it’s about the right speed
for most women. Imagine that you’re taking a long stroll
through a forest rather than a 100-yard sprint. Take time to feel
each sensation in your body, and imagine what she feels with each
caress. There’s nothing wrong with hot, aggressive sex,
but this should be the culmination of a long, slow progression
of heat and desire. Try it. You’ll like the results. And
so will she. In fact, she’ll love you for it.
#3: Be Mysterious
What is The Mystery? It is the unknown, and the unknowable. It
is something hinted at, but not revealed. It is what is potential,
and what is possible. Women love mystery because they are part
of the Great Mystery. They are neither knowable, nor understandable,
nor figure-out-able, nor predictable. They change every moment
– like the weather, like waves, like the tides of the ocean.
This is what drives us crazy and this is what fascinates us to
no end. It turns out that women love the mystery, and they love
men who are a little mysterious.
Being mysterious does not mean hiding everything, nor does it
mean pretending to be something you are not. I don’t recommend
becoming a CIA agent in order to attract chicks. Being mysterious
means being less predictable. It means changing your habits suddenly,
for no good reason. It means not revealing everything about yourself
on the first (or second, or fiftieth) date. Being mysterious is
saying “I’m not going to tell you,” from time
to time. (“Why?” she will ask. “I’m not
going to tell you,” is your answer, with a smile.)
Most men are completely predictable. If a busty blonde beauty
walks in the door, it is a safe bet that almost every man will
look at her. We can’t help it. We are creatures of habit,
and of hormone. However, one man in the room won’t even
notice her (or if he does, you can’t tell). His attention
is fixed on the woman he is with. That is not predictable behavior,
and it is very mysterious. Other women will notice, and ask each
other, “What makes him so different?” And that is
exactly the question you want them to be asking. Because they
will want to find out.
Some dating experts recommend being “cocky and funny”
in order to attract the attention and interest of women. Cockiness
is a signal that indicates self-confidence, and “funny”
can mean unpredictable, and therefore mysterious. This combination
can work well to create interest and attraction. It can also be
formulaic, and therefore predictable. Any “formula for attracting
chicks” will work for awhile, but then it runs out of steam.
Women want the real thing – they want authenticity. It is
a better strategy to actually become mysterious.
Take time to explore your spiritual nature – that is the
ultimate Mystery. The big questions of life remain the most important
questions to ask yourself: “Who am I?” “Where
did all this come from?” “Why are we here?”
“Where are we going in this once-and-only life?” When
you really explore these big questions, you become deeply connected
to that deeper mystery. Your depth and your mystery will be real.
And women will love you for it.
#4: Integrity Rules
Integrity is defined as “Soundness of and adherence to moral
principle and character; uprightness; honesty; the state of being
whole, entire, or undiminished; an unimpaired condition.”
For men, integrity means that all of your parts are aligned and
integrated. It means speaking your truth and standing up for what
is right and true. It includes honesty with yourself about yourself,
honesty in your communication with others, and living your life
based on principles that you’ve thought about and committed
When a woman opens herself fully to you, it is an awesome sight
to behold: beautiful, sexy, wild, and fully feminine. But a women
will only open herself fully to a man she can trust. If a man
is not trustworthy (and women know when he is or isn’t,
regardless of what he says or does), she cannot open fully. If
your woman is not opening herself to you, if she is holding back
her open, voluptuous, juicy self, it usually means that there
is something going on with you that she can’t trust.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to look at yourself
deeply, find out where you have been out of integrity. Then get
it cleaned up. In the 12-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous,
this is called “Doing a Ruthless Moral Inventory.”
It means looking at every place in your life where you have been
out of integrity, waking up to it, facing up to it, and cleaning
it up. This doesn’t mean going into blame or shame, but
taking responsibility for where you’ve been out of alignment
with your own highest values, and doing what is necessary to fix
it. If you’ve committed a crime, or broken a promise, or
withheld something you know is important to say or admit, buck
up and be a man. Go back and admit that you made a mistake. Apologize
for screwing up (or around). Make a new commitment to not do it
again. Make amends wherever necessary.
Then clean up your act going forward. If you make a promise, keep
it. Be good for your word. Speak your truth about what you want
and need, what is acceptable and isn’t acceptable. Live
according to your highest principles, and your highest intuition
about what’s right.
This is a lifetime practice, and it gets easier the more you practice
it. Create a list of “incomplete cycles,” –
the promises you made but didn’t keep, the things you meant
to say but never did, the projects you began but never finished,
the agreements you broke, and the people you hurt that you never
apologized to. Start by cleaning up one each day. Take a gradient
approach – start with the small ones where the stakes aren’t
very high. Exercise this cleaning muscle, and build yourself up
to handling bigger and bigger messes from the past. I guarantee
that if you do this, by the end of one year you will have a new
life, and you will be a man of integrity that women can trust
and open to. In addition, you will be the kind of man that other
men trust. You will be a man of integrity.
Resources for Change
resources are useful for self-growth and change. Some of them
come with my strong recommendation, and others are simply resources
that you should check out for yourself. It is your job to check
each one out and determine whether they are right for you or not.
Only you can tell. Each one has benefits to some men, but not
all. Don’t be afraid to experiment. None of these will do
any permanent damage, although they may inflict permanent change.
The National Men's Resource includes over 2,600 resources for
positive change in male roles and relationships. They provide
a nationwide calendar of local, regional, national and international
men's events. They list bookstores with separate men's sections,
men's publications, abuse & recover resources, alternatives
to violence, bulletin boards, catalogues, centers & counseling
centers, councils, family organizations, groups peer lead and
facilitated, men's health, international contacts, national, regional
and religious organizations, retreat centers, transgender resources,
youth services, vet centers and more. Visit www.menstuff.org
The Men’s Tribe – In the San Francisco Bay Area of
northern California, this group of men explore power, presence
and purpose through a process of initiation and facilitated men’s
Challenge Groups. Men meet regularly in small groups for deep
work on themselves, challenging themselves and each other to be
their best. The group is based on specific principles and values
we all choose to live by. For more information contact: Tim Kelley
(firstname.lastname@example.org) or Keith Merron (email@example.com).
Highly recommended, in part because I am a co-founder.
The Sword and the Scepter is an amazing 4-day workshop which explores
all aspects of men’s power. Held twice per year, it is one
of the most powerful workshops I’ve taken. I learned more
about my issues with power during this workshop than I did in
years of therapy. Highly recommended. Held in Northern California.
Contact Tim Kelley or Keith Merron (firstname.lastname@example.org
or email@example.com for information and schedules.
Tim and Keith are master facilitators, and are co-founders of
The Men’s Tribe.
Nation of Men – Another group of dynamic men who help each
other grow through deep work in small groups and large gatherings.
Also located in the San Francisco Bay Area, this group gives men
a place to be their best in the company of other men who care
about living the best life they can. Visit: www.nom.org.
The Men’s Center and Men’s Web – More great
resource sites: www.menweb.com and www.themenscenter.com.
The Mankind Project offers New Warrior Adventure Trainings, a
great program for developing men’s power and commitment
to higher principles. For information, visit www.mkp.org, write
to P.O. Box 230, Malone, NY 12953-0230, call 800.870.4611, or
The Noble Man Workshop provides a safe space for men to express
and explore their fears, wounds and resentments around women while
being held and supported by an experienced female staff. Being
seen and heard with unconditional love and acceptance allows for
the true alchemy of man and woman to emerge. This intensive culminates
in a Rite of Initiation for men into their purpose and vision
as a whole man, honoring themselves and being honored by women.
Held in Northern California. www.celebrationofbeing.com.
Dance and Yoga: Check your local resources for dance classes.
My favorite is Gabrielle Roth’s 5-Rhythms dance: www.ravenrecording.com,
which is a free-form dance style which focuses on self-expression,
rather than specific movements that are “right” to
make. Almost all partner dance classes are attended by women looking
for a man who can dance. Salsa and Tango are both very sexy and
hot. Try a few different classes until you find a teacher you
like. The teacher makes all the difference between feeling “I
can handle this” and “I can’t handle this.”
There are two many yoga styles to list, but check out Bikram Yoga,
hot yoga in a sauna-like environment, developed by a body builder
(www.bikramyoga.com), Anusara Yoga, the most grounded in the Tantric
or holistic view of life (www.anusara.com), or Iyengar Yoga, which
is very specific about how to do poses correctly (www.iyengar-yoga.com).
Any form of beginning Hatha Yoga is a good place to start.
Sex and Sexuality – Menstuff’s web site Let's Talk
About Sex provides a site map for men around issues, resources
and books pertinent to a variety of issues around sexuality. www.sexstuff.org.
David Deida is an awesome author and teacher about the deeper
meaning of sex, sexuality, and the interaction between the masculine
and feminine. I refer to him as “Saint David.” He
is funny, real, spiritual, and powerfully truthful. Read his book,
“The Way of the Superior Man.” Also read his essays
on his website, www.deida.com.
Inner Development – The Avatar® Course – This
9-day training is my favorite course for self development. I believe
it is the most powerful course for consciousness change on the
planet. After I took it, I experienced such profound growth that
I went back and became a licensed teacher. Developed twenty years
ago by Harry Palmer, an educational psychologist and deep inner
explorer, the course teaches you the real basics about how we
create our own reality (through our beliefs) and how we can change
our reality by changing our beliefs. More than 100,000 people
around the world have taken The Avatar Course. Read more on the
official Avatar website, www.avatarEPC.com.
Enhance Your Integrity – If you want to work on your integrity,
my highest recommendation is the Avatar Personal Integrity Course.
You can download this mini-course for free. If you follow the
steps and allow yourself to be truly honest about what you find,
you can expect improved well-being, insights into attacks and
disagreements, and a freeing of creative energy. Download it at
www.avatarepc.com/html/mini-eng.html. If you like the results,
sign up for The Avatar Course by finding an Avatar teacher near
you at www.avatarEPC.com.
SoulWave – My friend Kathryn Darling teaches an amazing
series of courses called SoulWave, which is based on her lifetime
of study of quantum physics (both of her parents were nuclear
physicists) and the spiritual and psychological paths. She provides
many ways of delving deeply into your own psyche to first understand
your patterns, and then to change them. Visit www.soulwave.com.
Waking Down – Saniel Bonder created the process called Waking
Down in Mutuality for self-development and awakening. Two of his
books are “Waking Down” and “Healing the Spirit/Matter
Split,” both of which I highly recommend. You can also become
directly connected to this work and practice through his community
(the “In Mutuality” part) at www.wakingdown.org.
Understanding the Chakras – Anodea Judith, whom I’m
extraordinarily fond of –both because she is an awesome
woman of great power and beauty and because she is my girlfriend
and partner – teaches about the Chakras, the ancient Hindu
and Tantric wisdom about the seven energy centers in the body
that represent our path from earth to heaven and from spirit to
matter. Her books include Wheels of Life and Eastern Body, Western
Mind, a serious study of developmental psychology as viewed through
the Chakra system. She also produced an award-winning film, The
Illuminated Chakras, an amazing visual feast, tour, and meditation
through your own Chakra system. Her newest book, Waking the Global
Heart, is an overview of the history of human civilization, where
we went wrong, and why we’re in our current mess. She also
prescribes a way out of the mess so we can straighten out our
world before we run off a cliff. Her website is www.sacredcenters.com.
Manifestation Training – If you want to become more masterful
at creating and manifesting the life you want, Anodea and I teach
a powerful course, “Manifestation Through the Chakras: Turning
Your Dreams Into Reality.” It is offered three times per
year: in Northern California, at Kripalu Yoga Center in Massachusetts,
and at a beautiful resort and spa in Costa Rica. We break down
the manifestation process into a step-by-step procedure, giving
you the tools to create the life you want. Whether you want to
create a loving relationship, a successful business, wealth, or
spiritual awakening, you can use this process to bring it to fruition.
Highly recommended (but then, I’m prejudiced). Visit Anodea’s
website www.sacredcenters.com or mine www.everydayawakening.com.
Life Purpose Process – If you are wondering about your life
purpose, I recommend Tim Kelley’s Life Purpose Process.
In a series of meetings in person or by phone, he can help you
identify what your actual life purpose is, and how to get yourself
aligned with it. He has worked successfully with a wide variety
of people from senior executives to artists, including me. Contact
Tim at firstname.lastname@example.org or at (415)902-8906.
Landmark Education provides many different educational and transformational
workshops around the country, including their flagship course,
The Landmark Forum. Although their courses do not speak directly
to the spiritual side of life (as I prefer), their courses are
eminently practical and can open you up to new possibilities of
living. Their Communication Course is very powerful, especially
for teams and organizations. I use many of their concepts in my
Personal Life Coaching – Athletes and executives use coaches
to improve their personal best. Personal life coaching as a profession
has evolved to the point where there are almost more coaches than
people who need coaching. As a personal life coach myself, I am
very particular about who I recommend. I believe that the best-trained
coaches are coming out of the coaching school New Ventures West.
You can visit them at www.newventureswest.com. There are many
other schools of coaching, and all of them are good to some extent,
but not all coaches are well trained, and not everyone who calls
themselves a coach will be good for you. Most life coaches offer
an initial hour or half-hour of coaching at no charge. Try out
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If you’re not making rapid progress on moving your life
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Find another coach who is a better fit for you.
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Here is a review of The 15 Techniques, which are included in the
full version of the e-book:
1. Know Thyself
2. Have Some Body
3. Be Mysterious
4. Integrity Rules
5. Speak Truth
6. Take Care of Yourself
7. Get Over Yourself
8. Love Women
10. Please Her
11. Enjoy Her
12. Show Up
13. Then What?
14. End Cleanly
15. Keep Beginning Forever
you implement these 15 techniques into your life, you will be
transformed into the kind of man that women love. Some of these
shifts take a lot of internal work, such as changing old habits.
Some of them are as easy as adopting a different point of view.
All of them are ways to “Know Thyself.” At each step,
your capacity for both giving and receiving love expands, and
your life becomes joy.
If you are serious about wanting to make changes, review the resources
listed in the last chapter and choose one or more to dive into.
Each one has its advantages and disadvantages. When you purchase
the full version of the e-book, the price includes a free 20-minute
coaching session. You can also choose a full one-hour coaching
session (regularly $175) for only $50.
To take advantage of either offer, email me with your contact
information, location, and the best time to reach you. My assistant
will call you to arrange an appointment time.
I offer workshops and personalized coaching for success. If you
would like information about these services, or if you would like
to be on my mailing list, send an email with “EA Newsletter”
in the subject line to Lion@EverydayAwakening.com.
Let me know of your successes and your struggles, your thoughts,
and your suggestions for improving this book. I welcome your emails
at Lion@EverydayAwakening.com. For additional articles, exercises,
and support, visit my website at www.EverydayAwakening.com.
I wish you the very best of everything as you traverse your unique
path toward integrity and wholeness.
-- Lion Goodman